To the stranger on social media,

I saw your post about abortion.  How you told your 4 year old that some mamas don’t want their babies in their bellies any more.  So they kill them.  Your words, not mine.

Here are the questions I’ve been asking ever since I saw your post:

If you tell your 4 year old about abortion, will you also tell her about sex?  Because I know that in many households, children learn about abortion years and years before they learn about sex.  And that seems off to me.  Does she even know how babies get in bellies?  And if you haven’t told her, why not?  Why is it too early to learn about something beautiful, but the right time to learn about something heartbreaking?

If you tell your 4 year old about abortion, will you also tell her about contraceptives?  And will you tell her that it is her right and every woman’s right to have them at an affordable cost?

If you tell your 4 year old about abortion, will you also tell her about rape?  How women, teenagers, and even tiny girls can be forced against their will?  How it can happen once or happen repeatedly, but either way leaves deep and lasting imprints on the woman.  How sometimes that vile, despicable act results in pregnancy?  How a girl who has already had her body snatched from her would feel when she learns that the effects of the rape will continue to be physically in her for 9 months?

If you tell your 4 year old about abortion, will you also tell her about mamas who want to keep their babies?  Who are making a decision that rips their heart in pieces?  Because that is part of this story as well.  You can’t simply reduce this down to “mamas who don’t want their babies.”  Women agonize over this choice and come to this decision for a wide variety of reasons.

I’m not asking you to support abortion.  But, my friend, if you decide that 4 years old is the right age to learn about abortion, will you at least tell the whole story?

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