May was our first full month with two children! Since Adelaide was born we’ve had lots of visitors which has been fun and also quite helpful. We’re learning to deal with a little more chaos and a heck of a lot less sleep. Although we’re mostly doing okay, writing is the one area where I feel like I can’t keep up – stringing together enough words to make a sentence (and a legible one at that) seems like a monumental task at this point, but I’m attempting it nonetheless.
All month I’ve been amazed at how many great articles I’ve found. I kept thinking, “Wow! May has been a great month for writing!” But I think the truth is that most months have these great articles, I’ve simply been able to read more of them in May. Since I’m spending so much time nursing Adelaide each day, I’m listening to more podcasts and reading more articles.
(As always, I’d like to note that these are articles that kept me thinking this month. It is not necessarily an endorsement.)
Among the most positive results of the research was the importance of parental involvement for this age group. “Children who felt like their parents were monitoring their activity online were noticeably less distressed by online conflict,” Dr. Underwood said. “Children perceive that their parents care about their online lives, and they’re probably talking about them.”
Chris McGonigal | These Emotional Photos Show The Real Reason For Memorial Day
Michelle Acker Perez | The Day I Dread Each Month
I am well aware of the gift it is to be a mom. I am grateful for the daughter I have, and I long to have another baby. It feels hard holding gratitude and longing side-by-side. The two aren’t mutually exclusive, but sometimes it feels like they are. I have one adorable, delightful baby, but that doesn’t negate the longing for another one.
Andrienne Lafrance | The U.S. Military Is Failing to Support Its Sickest Kids
Given the need for outpatient behavioral-health resources among military children and the spate of serious quality problems at military hospitals in recent years, it’s perhaps not surprising that a dearth of pediatric social workers in the hospital setting hasn’t been a focal point. Two years ago, a mandated review of the military health-care system found a pattern of disastrous errors and inconsistencies at several major military hospitals. A New York Times investigation published in 2014 found the military system had “consistently higher than expected rates of harm and complications” in surgery and maternity care. In a separate analysis, the American College of Surgeons found higher than expected rates of complications at half of the networks’s largest military hospitals. Another Pentagon study found babies born at military hospitals were twice as likely to be injured during delivery compared with newborns nationwide.
Dr. Amy Tuteur | Closing Newborn Nurseries Isn’t Good for Babies or Moms
Lactivists envision that everyone is like them: privileged to have a partner who will participate in in-hospital baby care, who can take time off from work to be there, and who has money to pay a babysitter to stay home with any older children. But that’s not the case for most women; they are solely responsible for the care of their newborn even if they are exhausted by a long labor, in pain from surgery or vaginal tears and sedated by pain-relieving narcotics. Closing nurseries doesn’t merely deprive these less privileged women of time to recover; it literally puts their babies at risk for death.
Podcast: Mariya Karimjee | This American Life Episode 586: Who Do We Think We Are? Act One: Whose Great Idea Was This?
When Mariya Karimjee was little, members of her family made a decision that would affect her entire life. Years later, she wants to know why. (32 minutes)
My own writing: Mother’s Day Blues at The Redbud Post
As I’ve studied the portrayals of God as a woman, I’ve gained a fuller picture of what it means for me to be a mother. These images are wholly unlike anything I’ve heard in a Mother’s Day sermon or at a ladies brunch. In Isaiah 42:14 we’re given the picture of God in childbirth—laboring, panting, anguished. In Luke 13:34 we see God as a hen, clucking away at her chicks and longing to shelter them under her wings. God becomes a breastfeeding mother in Isaiah 49:15, swollen and leaking. These pictures show the sides of mothering that are messy, undignified, and even undone. Suddenly the picture of a Christian mother is broadened. It is humanized. And as our eyes are opened to these stunning images of God, we can begin to accept a view of motherhood that moves away from the platitudes of the greeting card aisle and into the fullness of what parenting really means.
What was the best thing you read (or wrote!) this month?