My plan for March was to bring back the “best of the month” series where I share my favorite reads from around the web. I was on track collecting interesting links when influenza completely derailed the last week of March (and the first week of April). We’re well into April, but I still wanted to share these links with you today!
Laura Turner at Elle || Why I Plan to Get Pregnant on Anti-Anxiety Meds
When my husband and I began to think about having a kid, I was faced with a choice: Stay on the drugs, possibly hurt the unborn baby, but remain relatively calm; or go off the drugs, reduce the risk to the baby, but potentially become a prisoner of my own anxiety.
Tracy Gillett at Raised Good || Simplifying Childhood May Protect Against Mental Health Issues
When children are overwhelmed they lose the precious down time they need to explore, reflect and release tension. Too many choices erodes happiness, robbing kids of the gift of boredom which encourages creativity and self-directed learning. And most importantly “too much” steals precious time.
Anu Partanen at The Atlantic || What Americans Don’t Get About Nordic Countries
The choices Nordic countries have made have little to do with altruism or kinship. Rather, Nordic people have made their decisions out of self-interest. Nordic nations offer their citizens—all of their citizens, but especially the middle class—high-quality services that save people a lot of money, time, and trouble. This is what Americans fail to understand: My taxes in Finland were used to pay for top-notch services for me.
Eleni Pinnow at The Washington Post || I told the truth in my sister’s obituary, so that others might choose to live
I went on to share with everyone — friends, family, students, and work colleagues — the cause of my sister’s death: depression and suicide. I told them that my hilarious, kind, generous, helpful, silly and loving sister couldn’t see any of that in herself and it killed her. I told them that her depression created an impenetrable fortress that blocked the light, preventing the love of her friends, her family, and any sense of comfort and confidence from reaching her.
My loneliness and terror on the front porch was nothing compared to the absolute isolation that depression had imposed on my sister. I had to tell the truth.
Lara N. Dotson-Renta at The New York Times || The Only Girl at Her Science Camp
Rather than deciding for themselves the scope and use of a toy, children are being limited in their play by gender-specific designations and marketing. We’re simultaneously telling kids that gender doesn’t matter and opening doors professionally and educationally, but telling them it doesmatter (and in fact, more or less defines them) in the way they dress, in the toys they play with and how they engage with them, in the television programming they watch, and in the activities they pursue.
Arielle Bernstein at The Atlantic || Marie Kondo and the Privilege of Clutter
Of course, in order to feel comfortable throwing out all your old socks and handbags, you have to feel pretty confident that you can easily get new ones. Embracing a minimalist lifestyle is an act of trust. For a refugee, that trust has not yet been earned. The idea that going through items cheerfully evaluating whether or not objects inspire happiness is fraught for a family like mine, for whom cherished items have historically been taken away. For my grandparents, the question wasn’t whether an item sparked joy, but whether it was necessary for their survival.
My own writing from March: To my son, the grandchild of immigrants
Together let’s rectify the wrongs that were done to our ancestors. I want you to honor your great-great-grandparents’ sacrifices and their memories by speaking up when others try to malign foreigners. Instead of treating immigrants or refugees like those on the outside, let’s welcome them in. Rather than spreading malicious rumors about their ways of life or their religion practices, let’s take the opportunity to get to know them. And instead of seeing them as the downfall of American, let’s notice the ways that they make our country stronger.
What’s your the best thing that you read (or wrote!) this month?