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Month: January 2014 (page 1 of 5)

videos that might just make you cry (consider this a warning)

Words.  I feel like I have written so many lately and yet few of them have made it to this blog!  I’ve been working on all sorts of things which meant my blog has been a tad neglected this week.

Anyway, in the past week I’ve seen two different videos on parenting that have brought tears to my eyes that I wanted to share.  Could I just be a super sappy mother?  Maybe.  Probably.  But maybe you’ll end up liking them as much as I did.

Thanks to my friends Pita and Stephanie for passing these along!

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2014 – The Year of Hard Conversations

Let’s talk honestly about Air Force life, shall we?

Last week we had an information night for spouses that I helped organize.  Among many other speakers, we had someone come in and talk about surviver benefits.  So, with my husband sitting beside me, I learned what would happen if he died.  I learned how much money I would receive, I learned how long I could stay in base housing, I learned how long my son and I would have medical coverage.

It was weird.

I’ve dubbed 2014 “the year of hard conversations” for our family.  Being in the Air Force, they strongly encourage families to plan for difficult situations.  And we’ve actually talked about death and the future on many occasions.  But we’ve decided that this year we need to discuss it all in depth, record our decisions and make sure everything is in order from a legal perspective (will, power of attorney, etc).

I am pretty pragmatic about all of this and, thankfully, so is my husband.  We both recognize that at any time either of us could be injured or killed so we want to make sure things are taken care of.  Perhaps this is part of my natural tendency to over-plan everything, but if something were to happen to my husband, I would want a list.  I would want to go to a notebook and remember that we discussed and know exactly what my next steps should be.  Where he should be buried, what he would like at the funeral, where I should move with our son, how I should invest the money.  And I want him to have the same for me.  It just seems too great a burden to bear to have to make those decisions alone in moments of unfathomable grief and mourning.

It’s hard, too, to think of the future.  If we were unable to raise our son, who would we trust to do it for us?  If we were to remarry and that person wanted to adopt our son, would we want his last name to change?

I truly hope that I’ll never need these contingency plans, but I feel safety in knowing that I could honor my husband by following the decisions that we had made together.

Have you had these conversations with your spouse?  Or do you want to?  I have friends who swear they could never talk about this with their husbands because they can’t possibly imagine him dying, but my husband and I both think it’s important and we are able to have these discussions fairly calmly, which I appreciate.

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Show Us Your Singles Link Up – Meet Megan!

Although I write about a wide range of topics on here, I am absolutely sure this is the FIRST time I’ve posted anything like this!  I’m linking up with Kelly today for a Show Us Your Singles post because it just so happens that I have an amazing friend who is single.

I’m not usually the matchmaking type, but when I heard about Show Us Your Singles, I immediately thought of Megan.  I texted her a link to the blog and asked if she’d consider letting me post about her.  Megan is super fun and is usually up for an adventure so she said yes!  And I’m glad she did because it’s fun to share about a best friend.

Megan and I met in a freshman nursing class, but, within a week of each other, we both ended up switching our majors to psychology.  We spent the next three years in the same classes, spent two years living in the same dorm and spent a year working together as RAs.  After graduation, Megan moved to Colorado to begin her graduate studies in clinical health psychology and since then we’ve kept in touch through emails, texts, phone calls, and she even came to visit when Haddy was a newborn (I think I was still in the zombie stages of new motherhood then!).

What I’ve always appreciated about Megan is her thoughtfulness – we always have the best discussions.  In college we had several lunches each week scheduled together and would spend the whole time talking.  Megan is full of wisdom and asks really good questions, so I like getting her advice.  Megan is thoughtful, too, in how she integrates Christianity into the rest of life and this was a subject we talked about a lot in college.  Megan is such a positive person, but I’ve see how she chooses to have a positive outlook even when life isn’t perfect.  She’s an example to me in perseverance and joy.

    

Megan loves music and actually plays piano in her church’s worship team.  She likes nature and enjoys walking/running on trails around Denver.  Megan also likes interesting food, whether it be trying a new recipe or a new restaurant.  In college (after we got tired of the usual cafeteria food) we created a special grilled cheese sandwich that makes me hungry just thinking about it – we had to go to all different corners of the cafeteria to collect the ingredients, but it was worth it!  Megan also likes game nights with friends and traveling (the picture below is from a trip to Ireland).  And although she’d never say this about herself, I can say that Megan is a great mix of intelligent and hard working.  I mentioned how we had classes together through college and she set a high bar in terms of grades and projects!

 

Like I said, Megan is a super fun, amazing woman!  I’m so glad that we became friends and thankful for her wisdom in my life.

I do have one warning though: Megan doesn’t eat chocolate (she says she’s allergic, but I think that’s impossible;)  So if you are trying to impress her, don’t send chocolate!

**If you think you know someone who might be a good fit for Megan, leave a comment here or send me an email directly and I can pass the information along to her!

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